I just spoke with my mate Ben, who lives in New York. It has been over a year since we spoke.
Our friendship is blessed with that comfortable ability to be at a distance without us becoming really distant.
Like all things it needs attention to keep the thread connected, it was time we spoke.
Technology has done so much damage, I know, but one of its most valuable attributes is its ability to bring the vibrancy of a New York soundscape at 7pm on a Friday into my Saturday morning lounge room in Melbourne.
We’ve known each other since we were in our very early 20’s...We’ve reached the stage now where we are starting to notice the marks of time upon our lives. Both our physical and emotional worlds...the things to celebrate, the things to lament but also embrace.
Thinking about it now I long for New York and a Ben hug.
A barely known adventure of a city and the comfort of someone who doesn’t know the latest ‘drama’ in my life and so, therefore, knows me all the better.
Someone who has seen me ‘at it’ long enough to appreciate my small, complex, contradictory, but ever inching forwards, progress, failure and success. And a city that is the perfect back drop to long, meandering conversations about that adventure.
Randomly, many of my friends are travelling, or living, outside of Melbourne right now.
Unusually the space, this distance, helps me appreciate them more right now.
Normally this would be a moment of intense loneliness.
Perhaps this is a mark of some internal change, dare I say progress...
Yes, let’s say it’s that.
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