I grew up knowing something was wrong with me.
I was sick.
I learnt very early on that how I felt couldn’t be trusted. That my desires had to be suppressed.
Before I knew anything about who I loved, or what loving someone really meant, the people around me worked hard to help me understand that what I was, was unacceptable to the world I lived in.
They knew they were right because everyone knew they were right.
Even the law agreed.
And then the law changed.
I remember being at a friend’s wedding and hearing that statement that was legally required to be read at their marriage ceremony.
“Marriage means the union of a man and a woman to the exclusion of all others, voluntarily entered into for life.”
I was hurt by it. I have to admit that. I was hurt that my friends would agree to marry when the very act of getting married was condoning this discrimination that was embed in the law of our country.
I don’t blame them. Everyone was doing it. It is how it has always been. I’d never really thought about it before that moment. But when I heard that statement read out loud to a large gathering of loving people and we all just had to accept that is just how it is…I felt affronted. Like a second-class citizen.
Today that changed.
From today onwards when 2 people decide to get married the celebrant will say…
“Marriage means a union of 2 people, to the exclusion of all others, voluntarily entered into for life.”
Something feels different now. I’m relieved.
This feels like an important step in reclaiming myself as normal, natural, loving and accepted.
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